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Breaking Up Is One Of The Hardest Things We Go Through. Being Dumped Can Actually Hurt More Than Most Physical Injuries Do!
The thought of breaking up, the process of breaking up, and after the break up are all extremely stressful on the mind and the body. They are all stages that you have to go through and the more you understand what is going on the quicker you can get through the pain and start to see things clearer.
Here's some breakup advice that should help you see these stages a little clearer.
The First Step Is Realizing That Your Relationship is in Trouble
If your relationship has lost it's passion and fire, or if you
are in a relationship that's gone really bad, you are probably
trying to figure out how you got to this place.
This place and feelings that accompany it are a long way from the
stress free and nurturing days that pretty much made up the start of your relationship.
Are you feeling unloved? You probably feel like you are the only one in the relationship who gives a damn about it and you're wondering how the hell you're supposed to fix it all by yourself if your partner doesn't even care.
It's not as hopeless as it may feel. Change is possible, and if you want it bad enough, you can rescue and repair your troubled and wounded relationship. You may just need a little help to think clearly and see clearly first.
Sometimes relationships just take some work.
Author Rachel Rider, one of Meet Your Sweet's stable of talented dating and relationships writers, has put together a course that cuts right to the heart of relationship problems, and offers time-tested and proven techniques that will help you examine and fix your relationship, no matter how bad it seems.
"I miss the way things used to be" - You've all heard someone say that or possibly thought that yourself. There's a hypothetical time in the past that we all believe represents how happy we were. We want to get back to that point, but we don't know how.
It is possible to get back to that strong and happy point, but it takes the right advice.
With relationship recovery you'll -
* Discover the most common mistakes that can cause nearly all relationships to break up. Learn what these are and how to avoid them.
* Learn powerful techniques to ensure your partner listens, so that you feel appreciated and valued.
* Discover what YOU can do to fix the relationship - even if your partner doesn't want to.
* Learn and apply mind blowing strategies for handling your relationship conflicts in a more constructive and less emotionally stressful way!
These are just a few hints of what author Rachel Rider has outlined in her course, accompanied by bonuses including bonus ebook 'Repair After Separation,' and a bonus interview with Center for Life Management's Dr Rob Bilton, and LMC Relationship Center's Melody Chase!
Seriously - if you are having problems in your relationship you can either sit around and hope it gets better or you can do something about it which entails fixing it or getting out of it.
The Next Step Is Going Through The Breakup
If you've tried to fix the relationship and can't then you will
eventually start the process of going through the breakup.
Breaking up hurts. It's hard on the heart and it can cause
serious sadness and depression if you let it.
This is when you need to step back and be honest with yourself.
Is the breakup for a good reason? Is it really just not meant to be. Was the relationship not healthy to begin with and maybe would never get healthy anywase?
These are all the things that you need to come to terms with to be okay with what's going on.
If you really feel like the relationship just had a huge misunderstanding then there may be a chance that you can put it back together, but if it wasn't a healthy relationship in the first place then you should let it go for good and find something that makes you happy.
In any case, the important thing to do during a breakup is to keep yourself occupied with other things. If you just sit around and think about it all day you are neither doing yourself any good or the problem any good. Your are literally wasting your time sitting around and being upset!
I'm not saying it's wrong to be upset about the breakup but I am saying that if you were going to die in a week from now, how would you rather spend your week - crying all day over something that didn't make you happy or doing things that are guaranteed to make you happy?
Obvious right.
So get out and do the things that make you happy and let time heal the pain you are feeling and give you a clearer picture of what you really want. The other person is going nowhere and will probably be experiencing the same feelings you are. They will be there when the mist settles and you can see absolutely clearly, and then you can either work things out or say good bye.
And of Course The Last Step is After The Breakup
This is when you have gone through the breakup and now you are
seeing things much clearer.
You've either come to terms with the relationship ending or you have
realized how good the two of you were together and you are trying to
figure out how to get your relationship back together.
If you've come to terms with it then you can walk away with some good and bad memories as well as some good and bad lessons in life.
Every relationship we go through teaches us something about ourselves and what we want in life. And that is the best way to look at the ex relationship instead of hanging on to hate or anger, which in the long run will do you absolutely no good and only become unhealthy to your mind and body.
Sometimes though you realize that your relationship was really a great relationship and benefited you in an amazing way that you just didn't realize until you were out of it. This is when you decide you want your ex back and it's hard to think about anything else!
The important thing to remember here is that you should be looking at this objectively instead of just remembering all the great times you had.
Was your relationship healthy? Did your partner treat you with respect and was there something to build on there?
I'm a strong believer in NOT going back into abusive or unhealthy relationships until the issues have been sorted out with solid evidence of it staying that way.
If you do quickly get back into these relationships you end up jumping back into the circle of problems that originally motivated you to get out in the first place! The first few weeks are probably good but the old routine settles in very quickly and the whole process of breaking up begins again but may take longer to get out of this time or may cause damage to your health permanently.
But if your relationship ended over silly misunderstandings or because of something else that had nothing to do with abuse, then it may be worth saving if you believe it is.
The difficult part of getting your ex back is that often your first instincts are the ones that are going to drive them farther away from you.
Begging, crying, pleading, threatening, getting another partner to make them jealous, doing anything to get the attention you are craving, are all things that are going to reinforce the fact that the breakup was the right thing to do.
If you are serious about rescuing your relationship and winning back the love of your ex, then I would recommend Mirabelles 6-step plan that is going to deliver something pretty substantial. In addition to her comprehensive 6-step system, she also answers key questions covering topics such as:
An Uncommunicative Ex, 'Just Be Friends' Zone, Getting Over Past Mistakes, When Your Ex is with Someone Else, Dealing with an Emotionless Ex, and Do They Still Love Me?
This is not an ordinary ebook she's offering. At a whopping 174 pages, it's much, much more. Mirabelle has really covered everything in this book. This ebook is guaranteed to assist even the most desperate relationship situation!
If you want to win back the love of your ex, there is no room for mistakes or techniques that are going to do more damage than good. You need to develop a considered and genuine approach to winning your ex back, and that's exactly what
Mirabelle Summers' "2nd Chance - How To Win Back The Love Of Your Ex" will do. It's the first place I would recommend turning to rescue a relationship.
I promise you will learn something from this ebook, and it may be the best investment you have ever made! Win back your ex and rebuild your love. Do it right this time!
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