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New Relationships - Keeping Relationships Strong and Moving Forward
I remember back in the day when I used to think that 3
was a magic number. I would get into a new relationship
then I would break up with my boyfriend at 3 months or
3 years and it never failed. I'm sure many of you have
heard that as well but it's something that we manifest
because we've heard it so much. It doesn't have
to happen.
Although, we really can tell if the relationship is going to last or not from the first few months.
So if we want it to last and our partner is a good person who we love then we need to keep the following advice for new relationships in mind while starting out and building a solid foundation for a healthy long lasting relationship.
First thing is excess baggage that we carry over form past relationships. Did your ex hurt you by cheating, lying, or just leaving you with no reason? Well, you can't carry that over into a new relationship or you are being unfair to your new partner.
You have to remember that every person in this world is different and just because your new partner says something or does something that led to hurt before doesn't mean it's going to happen again. For example: if he/she tells you that they are working late and from your past that turned out to be 'I'm cheating on you' then you can't freak out that your new partner is cheating.
You see what I mean?
Start fresh. Shake off the old beliefs and habits and come into the relationship full of trust.
Trust is a huge component to new relationships. So many of them end because of ridiculous trust issues that are again the result of the past.
Yes, trust does come with time for some people but what you can do is let go and believe that it's going to be okay. Belief is powerful and will over ride your past issues. Affirm to yourself everyday that this new relationship is just that new - and you are putting your faith and trust into it without any inhibitions.
Conflict is the next issue that strolls along in a new relationship and it's always over the littlest things. But it's bound to happen because you are two people who used to be single and doing things your own way with no one to answer to. Understanding, communication, and patience are the keys to getting through conflict.
Understand that he/she has different outlooks on situations and a different way of doing things.
Talk about those issues and why they bother you and listen to his/her issues and why they bother him/her. Really listen and understand where they are coming from and you'll see that not everything has to be done or looked at a certain way (your way).
Patience. Use your patience to get through or make it to the understanding and communication. Patience is a great virtue for relationships because without it we would just blow up without waiting to see the truth of the situation. Take deep breaths (not dramatically), take a time out, or take a walk if you have to but don't react in anger or annoyance. Keep your cool and you will be thankful you did later.
New relationships need to get over some humps and be polished a little bit but if you can do this then you are well on your way to a long lasting relationship.
The important thing to do is to build the foundation of the relationship so there's never any doubt about what you two expect from eachother and there will be no surprises down the road.
I 100% recommend checking out connect and commit from meet your sweet. One of the many things they will teach you is to take things to the next level of commitment – without screwing it up...
Good luck! And I know you will make it past the three month mark this time. :)
