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The Top 7 Ways to Hurt Your Ex

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Once upon a time, when I had just broken up with a guy…I learned that he wanted to hurt me. He wanted me to feel pain because he was so mad about the breakup. So what did he do? He destroyed my furniture that I had left behind. Only, he didn’t think about how that would affect the way I viewed him from that moment until forever. So when he got in contact later with me he was surprised when I couldn’t stand the sound of his voice.

Following are the top 7 ways to hurt your ex AND why doing those things could possibly backfire on you and cause problems in your life!

1. Tell Your Ex a Lie That You Think Will Hurt Him or Her

One huge way to hurt your ex is to tell them a lie, and many people use this technique. Lies can vary from the classic “I’m pregnant!” to “I slept with your friend!” You can pick a lie that you really think will hurt them to the core and then let them have it through messages or even in person.

When you are a kid you are taught not to lie, and for good reason! Lying will only hurt YOU in the end! If you tell your ex something that you think will hurt them then it will eventually be found out to be a lie and it could cost you your reputation, future relationships, and even your dignity. Lying is something you will be sure to regret.

2. Spread Nasty Rumors Online

Online social sites have made it easy to spread nasty rumors about your ex. You don’t even have to use facebook to do the dirty work, you can sign up with random forums and spread the word, and you can even ‘submit dirt’ to places like thedirty.com.

First of all, this is bad because it is morally wrong. That may not mean much to you right now – but trust me, a few years down the road and you will start to feel a twinge of regret and remorse. It may even become so powerful that you are constantly feeling bad about what you did – and that can affect your life in a negative way.

Second of all, Karma baby Karma. It’s all too real and this type of karma is not something you want! Do you really ever want to go online and see a rumor about you making out with your cousin? Don’t think so! Avoid the bad karma by avoiding spreading rumors.

Lastly, it makes you look pathetic in the eyes of your friends and other people. When you post something online it can be impossible to retract it. Once you post it it’s there for everyone to see – and taking cheap shots at your ex makes you look pathetic and desperate. And the fact that your ex has hurt you will be apparent to everyone.

3. Spread Nasty Rumors Offline

  • It’s easy to make a poster of your ex doing something embarrassing and spread it around for everyone to see.
  • It’s also easy to tell a personal story that your ex would never share just for the thrill of making them embarrassed or feel horrible.
  • It’s also easy to ‘rat’ out your ex and let loose a secret that could get them in a lot of trouble.

But don’t do it!

If you share something for the sake of hurting them or getting them in trouble then you will probably succeed. But things may go further than you anticipated and you may end up essentially ruining their life. It happens quite often and it’s not a place you want to go. You do not want to be someone who ruined someone else’s life. Again it comes down to karma, regret, and looking pathetic.

4. Destroy Your Exes Personal Stuff

You can destroy your exes furniture, like my ex did. But you can even take it one step further and destroy things that really mean something to them like their grandfather’s watch or their personal diary (I’ve had that one done to me as well!) You can really get to the heart of what they are passionate about and burn it in a fire. You will not only damage their stuff but you will hurt them tremendously as well.

Doing this will earn you a spot in their life forever as someone who they do not want to see, hear, or date again; you will ruin your chances of every getting back together with them or even just being friends.

Doing this type of thing can also cause them to retaliate against you! They may be so angry and hurt that they ruin something of yours. Then you will be even more upset – and the circle will continue on like this until you break out into a really big fight and one of you goes to jail, or when one of you just finally gives up.

The best thing you can do when you still have your exes stuff is to give it back – NOW!

5. Sleep With Their Friend

Want to really hurt your ex? Then sleep with their friend. This can hurt them a couple ways.

  • You may hurt their ego by showing the interest you have always had in one of their friends.
  • You may cause their relationship with their friend to deteriorate leaving them without a buddy to hang out with.

Sleeping with your exes friend is NEVER something you should do. You can ruin your reputation, end up with hurt feelings if you get rejected from their friend as well, and even contract a disease or get (or get someone else) pregnant. Most of the time the joke is on you and you end up hurting WAY more than your ex does.

6. Tell Your Ex What You Really Think About Them

If you want to hurt your ex you can tell them what you REALLY thought about their skills in the bedroom. You can tell them how dumb you really thought they were or mock their failures in life to their face. You can really bruise their ego and lower their self-esteem by making fun of the personal things you know will cause them the most hurt. I know people that still have low self-confidence from their ex. You can literally shape their lives in a negative way by making them feel bad.

While doing this will 100% of the time hurt them, you will come out the loser in this one. Eventually, one day, you will regret making them feel so bad about themselves. Nobody likes to make someone else feel worthless or self conscious about themselves and even if it doesn’t happen tomorrow or next week – one day you will feel horrible for what you have done.

7. Vandalize Your Exes House or Car

Most people love their cars and house, and if you want to hurt your ex then pick the one they love most and vandalize it!

  • Egging a car or house can cause tons of damage, anger, hurt, and time to clean it up.
  • Spray painting ‘Loser’ on their garage door can cause huge embarrassment to them in the neighborhood and a whole day of painting.
  • Drawing a dick on their car can cause them embarrassment and lots of money to fix.

There are tons of things you can do to vandalize your exes stuff, but all of those things can land you in jail or with one hefty fine. Do you think they are not going to know it’s you? Even if they can’t prove it then may retaliate against you in a big way – which means your life may become in danger. There’s not telling what an agry ex will do when you have gone way too far.

While there has been lots of music videos and TV shows that make this look cool or funny, in the end you may be paying more than you want just to hurt your ex.

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How To Win Back Lost Love

Lose the Love of Your Life? Whether you Caused the Break-Up or Not…Here’s Some Tips to Win Them Back

Win Back Lost LoveHad a break-up? I’m assuming you did if you are here reading this article about how to win back lost love! You are probably trying to get your ex out of your head, or you are trying to get your ex back. Either way, it’s tough.

It’s hard to move on from a break-up quickly. There is always a period where you question your break-up and wonder what if it was really a good idea. And sometimes you decide that it wasn’t a good idea after all! Is that you?

If you have decided that you want to win back your lost love then you can’t just call them up and tell them. You have to have a plan of action to win back their love – so following are a few tips to up your chances of winning them back for good.

How To Win Back Lost Love

Apologize

Oh, I know – you have said I’m sorry a thousand times right? But did you really mean it? Did you really know what you were apologizing for? Did you just apologize to get back into your exes good graces?

The thing about apologies is that they are see-through. If you are apologizing for the wrong reasons, your ex will know it, but if you are sincerely sorry then your ex will sense that as well.

So what do you do? You figure out what you did wrong and you apologize – sincerely! Feel it at the very core. Once you really feel it then your body language and words will match up accordingly.

Forgive

You didn’t do anything wrong? It was your ex who should be apologizing! Then you are in the position to forgive. That is if you want your ex back.

If your ex did something bad and you can’t forgive them then you should not jump back into the relationship. Unless you forgive your ex you are not going to be able to have a healthy and happy relationship. Not even close. You will be accusing them, questioning them, blaming them, and causing them to grow further apart from you then they already were.

Change

Whether you caused the problems or they did both of you are going to have to change. The relationship was not working out before, right? You may think that it’s just your partner that needs to change, but it’s not.

For example, if your partner did something horrible like cheated on you or lied to you about something big, then you may think that you were completely in the right and they were completely in the wrong. True – you may have been. But that doesn’t mean that your behavior was healthy.

  • Did you play the victim?
  • Did you allow your partner to treat you poorly for a long time before they did the unthinkable?
  • Did you stop participating in the relationship on a positive level?
  • Did your behavior push your partner away in any way?

This doesn’t mean you were to blame for them doing something stupid. They are totally responsible for their actions! It just means that you may have some things that you need to change in order to be in a happy relationship with them.

It doesn’t matter if you were to blame or not, if you want to win back your lost love then you need to keep these tips in mind. Otherwise, you may end up back with your ex – but it will be in the exact same relationship you broke up for, and that is surely to result in another break-up shortly down the road.

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My First Breakup

Losing My First Boyfriend


I was 14 when I got and lost my first boyfriend. When he broke up with me he didn’t just break up with me – he stopped calling me completely and disappeared off the map! We didn’t have the internet or cell phones back then so I couldn’t find out if he was still around and alive. I couldn’t find out anything.

I sat in my room and listened to some sappy song during that time and cried – for days. I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I felt like I wasn’t going to make it through.

After The First Breakup

I survived that break up and went on to date other guys – and those relationships all ended up in breakups as well.

I wish I could tell you that breakups became a breeze after that first breakup, but they didn’t. Breakups never really got any easier from that point on. They just were not exactly the same as that first breakup.

• Some guys told me they were breaking up with me.
• Some relationships broke up in a terribly bad fight.
• Sometimes I even broke up with the guy (imagine that)
• Sometimes the breakup was mutual but still painful

So What’s My Point?

I’ve been with the same guy going on 8 years and found the love of my life. All my breakups helped me do that.

At the time I thought breaking up was the worst thing in my life, but actually the breakups taught me things about myself and what I wanted in a relationship.

• Some breakups taught me about what I didn’t want in a guy – drug addict comes to mind.
• Some breakups taught me about what I was doing wrong in relationships like being too needy.
• Some breakups taught me that I could survive on my own even when I thought I couldn’t.

I learned from each and every breakup and in the end I became stronger because of it and found a guy that fit my life perfectly. No games. No big issues. Just pure love and happiness.

Are you going through a breakup? There is a lesson there for you to learn. Find it and move on a stronger person.

 


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