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6 Signs That Tell You He’s Falling in Love with You

Guest Author / February 13, 2012 / Understand Men /0 Comments

If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy loves you, you’re in luck. It’s really not that hard. Although most guys may have trouble communicating their emotions and feelings verbally, there are plenty of telltale non-verbal signs he loves you that are easy to identify and spot.

Guys are notoriously shy about announcing their love out loud. If you’re planning to wait until he whispers those three little words in your ear, you might have to wait a lot longer than if you would just look out for other signs he loves you.

When a guy loves you, it’s just as hard for him to keep it under wraps as it is for him to say it out loud. Here’s how to know if he loves you.

• He prefers hanging out with you to chilling with his friends
• He bends over backward for you
• He stops noticing other women so much
• He hangs on every word you say
• He doesn’t mind doing things for you
• He is still affectionate even when he’s not after sex

1. He Prefers Hanging out with You to Chilling with His Friends

Just like spending time with your BFF is one of the most important parts of your life, men put a lot of importance on finding quality time to spend with their friends. It is almost irresistible to a guy when the call comes in to inform him that the guys are shooting pool at the bar, catching the game at Eddie’s, or watching Bruce Willis kick the daylights out of the baddies.

If your guy consistently foregoes opportunities for guy time in order to spend more time hanging out with you, your ‘he loves me’ radar should probably start tingling.

2. He Bends Over Backward for You

While most women are wired with a selfless, motherly instinct to help other people, the vast majority of guys are a lot less willing to do things for others unless they get something back in return. If your man begins to take the initiative to go way out of his way to do things for you, all he may be hoping for in return could be your love.

These could be things like driving you where you need to go even when it’s out of his way, bringing you lunch on your lunch break even if it means missing his, or even something as simple as giving you his coat when it’s freezing outside.

3. He Stops Noticing Other Women so Much

The more you begin to fill up your man’s senses, the less he will notice the other attractive potential mates on the scene. If you man is always checking out the ladies that pass by out of the corner of his eye, you may need to start working a bit harder for his attention. But if a real knockout manages to make a complete pass in front of your man without him taking his eyes off you even once, love just might be in the air.

4. He Hangs on Every Word You Say
If there’s one thing most guys hate more than anything else it’s hearing about all the drama that goes on between you and your friends. If you can get away with going on for hours to him about who said what at work or who likes who among your friends, he may just more than like you.

5. He Doesn’t Mind Doing Things for You

Another way how to tell if a guy loves you is to test him by asking him to do something for you that he wouldn’t normally want to do. Don’t ask for money, as most guys are willing to throw money at just about any woman. Instead, ask for help washing your car or for his company while you visit your sick grandma.

6. He’s Still Affectionate Even When He’s Not after Sex

When a guy begins to develop stronger feelings for you, he will find himself unable to stop touching you, hugging you, and kissing you even when sex is not on his mind. When his levels of affectionate touching begin to shoot through the roof, his feelings for you might be skyrocketing as well.

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Girls – How To Spot a Loser Before You Start Dating Him

Bellaisa / December 9, 2011 / Dating Advice For Women /0 Comments

A loser Will Only Cause You Pain. Avoid Losers and Avoid The Pain That Comes With Them

Sometimes it's Not So Obvious That He's a Loser

I wish I knew this information when I was younger. I dated so many losers that it was almost ridiculous! I dated drug addicts, users, jerks, egotistic guys, reality-twisted guys, and guys who did everything short of physical abuse. Thankfully, I never got into a relationship like that.

I kept accepting these guys into my life over and over again until I finally learned my lesson…and learned my lesson I did.

That lesson (or lessons) is what I’m going to share with you!

Clues That He is a Loser

You may not be too sure at first sight, but as you get to know the guy there will be obvious clues about what kind of guy he is and whether or not he is right for you.

Clue # 1 – He Has an Obvious or Not Obvious Drug or Alcohol Problem

At first it’s just something that he does. He drinks too much, he smokes a little weed, or he does some sort of harder drug recreationally.

When you are younger and in party mode you kind of expect this thing to be around. It’s not such a big issue.

You may be willing to look past some sort of drug or alcohol problem, and I get that, but believe me – over time it becomes more and more of a problem.

It may be something you think he will get over at first and that’s why you overlook it, but in time you will find that he will put his habit first and you second. He may steal money from you to get his drugs or alcohol. He may become a different person the more drugs and alcohol he does – a person you don’t like very much.

Drug and alcohol problems rarely go away. They normally get worse, way worse, before they get better. It’s best to just avoid this guy completely until he’s over his issues completely.

Clue # 2 – He Doesn’t Have any Plans or Goals

A guy who doesn’t have any visions for the future is not worried about succeeding in life or achieving his dreams. He’s living in the moment and not really sure where he is going in life. In fact, he may not even be thinking about it.

This kind of guy is going to cause havoc to you and your life. If he hasn’t made any solid plans about his life and what he wants do you think he’s honestly going to start with you and your relationship? Nope. Your relationship will be something else that he’s just doing and he won’t be looking long-term with it, and if he does he may get scared off.

This guy is going to cause you pain when it comes the commitment in your relationship, and often times this guy will break up with you without saying why, or cheat on you even though you are really good to him.

So watch for guys who are living on a whim and say ‘I don’t know…’ a lot. These guys are not worth the effort you will put into the relationship.

Clue # 3 – His History

He’s taken advantage of women. He’s used women. He leaves women at the drop of a hat. He’s been to jail. He’s been in a fight recently. He was living out of his sisters RV (personal example).

If he has a long history of being a loser than chances are he still is. He may try to do better for a while when he’s with you, but chances are he’s going to revert back to his old ways very quickly.

I’m not saying that people don’t change, they do, but his history should reflect some of that change. Like maybe he’s volunteering his time somewhere or he’s been working on building a career, or he’s been taking classes on anger management. The point is he should be reflecting a different attitude inside and out of he’s changed.

It’s hard to spot the guys who haven’t changed sometimes because they are going to be on their best behavior in order to impress you, but if you take their history into consideration then you have a pretty good idea of what to expect.

If you are unsure then make sure you take it slow. Don’t rush into a relationship because time will tell you whether or not he has changed or kept his loser ways!

Other signs that may indicate a loser:

He lives at home and depends on his parents.
His friends tell you that he is a loser
He doesn’t listen to you when you are talking to him
He puts you down in any way, shape, or form.
He talks bad about you in front of your friends, his friends, or strangers.(Or behind your back)
He won’t show show others how he really feels about you.

And probably the best indicator that he’s a loser is your gut. Your gut will tell you that something is just not that right with this guy. If you feel that way then run! Your gut normally won’t lead you astray!

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Dating Advice For Women

Bellaisa / November 14, 2011 / Dating Advice For Women /0 Comments

Huge Dating Mistakes – That Many Women Are Guilty Of!

First of all, the impression you make is going to impact how he views you and whether or not he wants to go out with you or go out with you again.

These are common mistakes that are made all the time by women that hinder their success with men.

These dating no-no’s can be made before the first date or on the first date – either way they will turn a man off, and most likely leave you wondering why he hasn’t called back.

Mistake 1 – Blurting out everything about your life all at once.

We start rambling and it can be hard to stop sometimes and rambling is always accompanied by sharing our thoughts, feelings, and facts that don’t need to be shared – just yet.

He doesn’t want to know about your ex-boyfriends, past mistakes, hard to live with traits, or your view on where you go when you die. Some things need to be shared when you have gotten to know each other a little bit better – and left alone until then.

Mistake 2 – Talking negatively and whining about everything!

Being a negative person will change anyone’s view about you in an instant. And it will not be about how great you are but instead how annoying and depressing you are. It doesn’t matter how cute or innocent you think your whining is.

It seems like a lot of people start conversations off with a negative tone and it has almost become the normal thing to do nowadays. Listen to the next person who approaches you and I’m willing to bet I’m right.

No one wants to be surrounded by negative people and no one is attracted to negative people. So imagine what they will think about you when the first impression you give them is of a negative and whiny woman.

Keep the conversation on a positive note and do not complain about everything under the sun no matter how tempted you are to do it.

Mistake 3 – Irrelevant conversations

Make sure you keep your conversation to relevant information.

For example, if he mentions that the weather is really nice today do not start talking about how the weather was on your last vacation. (This will almost always lead to rambling as well by the way).

Keep it on track and agree about the weather and talk about how great it is for what you are doing today. That will lead to more relevant conversation about the day and what the two of you have planned.

Another great tip is to talk about your surroundings. This will keep the conversation in the moment which will allow you to be in the moment as well and avoid rambling.

So if you are drinking coffee then talk about the coffee shop. Or if you are in a restaurant then talk about the decor and food.

Where To Meet Good Men

Now let’s talk about meeting new men for all ages – GOOD new men.

I’m not saying that all men at these places are going to be strictly good guys, you’ll have to weed that out for yourself, but the chances of meeting a good guy here are much higher than at a lounge or club.
There’s a reason behind the place that makes it so appealing.

The Gym – The guys here are taking care of their bodies and putting some effort into their health. This is a great thing! You have already spotted a guy that’s more likely to get off the couch and do something rather then drink beer and watch sports all day.

Plus you get the added bonus of him being disciplined and goal orientated. The chances of him having other goals are highly likely here.

High Tech Stores – The guys here are looking for stuff to compliment their lives and if they are buying expensive software or hardware then you know that they have money, goals, and interests beyond playstation and, again….the couch.

Honestly this would work for any guy shopping at a store, by himself, that doesn’t involve video games or pornography.

Through Your Circle of Friends - Chances are your friends have a lot in common with you and the chances are also pretty good that their friends have a lot in common with them and so on and so forth down the line.

So this means that the guy who is friends with your friends husband may be compatible with you! Do you follow my logic here?

This also means that you should have a better insight into him through your friends and their friends.

Work - The statistics for relationships beginning at work are quite high, close to 25%, and for a good reason.

Let’s get this straight though, I’m talking about meeting guys who work with you and have a career that they are passionate about and not a guy who hates his job but stays there with no drive to find something better for himself. If they can’t figure out how to make themselves happy how do you think they will make you happy?

And one more thing…if they are happy and passionate about working at a fast food joint don’t rule them out. People who are happy where they are in life are still better then people who hate where they are and have no drive.

The great thing about work is you know their ethics and drive when it comes to their work and life. You see them achieving goals and making new ones. You know they are making money and possibly have a car…but that’s besides the point.

You have lots of information to start a conversation and get to know them before actually having to date them and where else can you see your lover everyday once you do start to date them?

Online Dating Sites – There are many benefits to meeting a guy on here and so many people are doing it nowadays that you don’t have to feel weird about it anymore.

The men on these sites are actively looking for a partner and their information is there for you to see. You don’t have to approach them or talk to them or even acknowledge them if you don’t want to. You just have to look around and see if there is something that interests you.

Plus you can do it at a time that is convenient for you. After work, before work, when the kids go to bed, when your friends leave for the night – whenever.

If you are careful and follow some guidelines for online dating then you will have a great chance of finding a guy you have a lot in common with and who makes you really happy.

Some Online Dating Advice For Women

Be Honest About Who You Are

Post the latest photo of yourself and not the best one you have from ten years ago. Photos can be quite deceiving to the eye and that’s why we pick the best one but remember that you may eventually meet someone who thinks that the you ten years ago is the real you now.

Also keep you weight, height, and preferences on course with who you really are. Again remember that meeting him with a different body and likes will result in a waste of time on both your parts.

Stay Positive and Lighthearted

Just like when you meet someone you want to give them a positive impression of you.

Don’t mention how much you hate online dating, but thought you would try it because it may be the only way you could meet someone with you crazy schedule. NO! Don’t do that. Not attractive.

Imagine what they think you will think of them for being on an online dating site if you think it’s so stupid. Chances are they won’t follow up with you at all.

Don’t talk about your negative points but always keep the focus on your positive.

You do want to be honest still and you may have a quality that other have told you is bad before but if you do want to be honest and mention that you tend to talk out of turn or your stories go on forever then keep it in a quick and positive light followed by a but…you’ll love my stories when I tell them.

Keep it Open to Possibilities

You may want a Christian man who is 5’6 and weighs 190 pounds, who makes 100,000+/year, and who wants exactly 3 kids in the future but you don’t want to make that the only option you have.

If you can give a little room on the weight, height, and salary – hell, even the kids – then you have a better chance of meeting the man of your dreams instead of the man of your criteria.

Remember that there is more to someone then there statistics. There is a personality and a heart behind these guys as well which makes them unique in their own way.

Final Thought About Women and Dating and Relationship

One thing I always want to stress, and I hope you remember, is that you deserve to be happy and nothing less. If you find yourself in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy then fix the problems – or get out!
Life is about enjoying every minute and living it to the fullest and if you spend your years miserable, unhappy, and wishing for something else, then you are wasting these precious moments.