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How to Tell if Your Internet Date is Into You (for women)

Guest Author / February 20, 2012 / Online Dating /0 Comments

Does He Really Like You? Find Out Yourself!

Online dating might be good fun but it can be very stressful too. Ok, so you have been chatting online, but now you are finally going on an actual date with your potential new partner.

Spending the evening constantly feeling uncertain about whether the guy you are with is into you or not is a great way to ruin your date and maybe your chances all together.

Luckily there are a few signs you can look out for that will reveal all. Watch out for these the next time you go on a date. The more of them you spot, the better the odds are that he really is interested in you and not just hanging around until something better comes along.

It’s all in the eyes

Eye contact is one of the most important clues of all. If there is little to no eye contact you can forget about your chances of getting together. Lots of eye contact bodes well for a future relationship to develop.

Be warned though; studies show that if his eye contact starts level with your eyes and then slides down to take in your body as well, he is probably more interested in a fling than a relationship.

He has started telling his friends about you

If a first date spreads the word about you in a positive way, you can be sure he is interested in continuing to see you. He might even mention this in a conversation to you, so watch out for this clue.

He asks for second date before the first has ended

Sometimes a first date can go so well that the usual awkwardness just isn’t there. If he should ask about the possibility of a second date before the first one is even over, you know he is very interested.

In this instance he isn’t asking because he feels he should, he’s asking because he wants to find out whether you are into him and he can’t wait until the end of the night to ask.

He exhibits lots of positive body language

Open and honest body language is a good sign. Alternatively if he sits there with his arms folded and legs crossed you can start looking for another potential date!

He leans in towards you

Personal space is very important. But if he leans towards you to share a conversation or listen more closely to what you are saying, this is a good sign that he has a genuine interest in you.

This is particularly true if he holds your gaze whilst you talk and if he responds to what you have actually told him, rather than just moving on to the next topic.

Summary

Figuring out how the other person on your date is really feeling is perhaps one of the toughest things about dating – it is rarely straightforward but with the above clues you can often get to the bottom of how he feels.

Eye contact of course is well known to be important, but as you can see from the information above, there is more to this than – literally – meets the eye!

This guest post was written by Ricky from PassionSearch – the free online dating site. Thanks for reading

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Internet Dating When You’re a Divorced Parent

Bellaisa / February 10, 2012 / Online Dating /2 Comments

Internet dating used to be a bit of a joke. No one wanted to admit that they met someone online. Today, however, this is no longer the case. 20% or more of people getting together begins with online dating websites. If you are divorced and have kids, Internet dating can be a great tool to find a new romantic partner, however, you have to know how to make online dating work for you.

Tip #1 – Be Honest with Your Profile

One of the pitfalls of online dating is the tendency for people to lie in their profile, particularly women. This is not in your best interest, as eventually you will need to meet people in person. Be honest with the information in your profile, and provide a current picture that is a true representation of who you are right now.

Tip #2 – Be Honest About What You Are Looking For

The advantage of Internet dating is that you can select specific characteristics to filter your searches. This means that you only want to date men that are interested in getting married (at some point), then you can filter out all of the men that are only looking for a quick hookup. Think of online dating as a partner mail order catalog. Use characteristics that you want in a romantic partner to bring up the men or women that are a good match for you.

Tip #3 – Look for Warning Signs

The problem with online dating is that there are predators and bad eggs hiding in the mix. The trick is to interact with each possible date enough to figure out if they have any red flag warning signs. For example, if their responses to your questions are inconsistent or if you catch them in a lie it is a good idea to just cut them loose. If someone is lying to you this early in the relationship, chances are they will lie to you later on as well. Other warning signs include having multiple accounts under different names, locations, etc. Finally, if they ask to borrow money from you or if they make any inappropriate request file a complaint against them with the online dating service, block their account and stop interacting with them.

Tip #4 – Keep Your First Meeting Public and Casual

When you get to the point where you want to meet, make sure that the meeting place is public and that you keep things casual and fun. This will protect your safety and it will make the experience pleasant.

For many divorcees stepping into dating with a child can be tricky. Smart Divorce, Raising Happy Healthy Children is the outcome the author, Madeline Binder MS Human Services Couseling, is hoping to achieve. You can find more articles and information dating on her Children and Divorce blog.

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The Top Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid Unless You Like Being Single

Guest Author / January 29, 2012 / Online Dating /2 Comments

Online dating is supposed to be the next evolution in human interaction. If you watch any commercial for companies like eHarmony or Match.com, they make it seem like such a breeze don’t they? Two people meet for the very first time and they go on to have a wonderful date while laughing all the way. But in real life, you have to get through several stages before you even reache the point of meeting face-to-face. There simply are no guarantees and online dating is basically what you make of it. Sure it can work out great and you might end up with your soulmate, but you could potentially work yourself into all types of problematic situations as well. While it’s good to be optimistic, you shouldn’t go into any online dating situation thinking that all of the work is done for you. You’ll have to think on your feet and trust your instincts while avoiding some of these common mistakes.

Picking the Wrong Site – there are plenty of websites out there but almost all of them are different in some way. Even if some of the features are the same, it’s unlikely you’ll find the exact same user base. You have to think about what you want from your online dating experience and then pick a site to match. For example, if you just want to see what’s out there while testing the waters than something free like Plenty of Fish will work just fine. But if you’re looking for something more serious than a site like that might just seem like a waste of time. In general, free sites serve their purpose but they can also turn into something resembling social networking. For a real relationship where two people are on the same page about the future, you might have to pick something that requires a monthly subscription.

Lying in Your Profile – everybody fudges the truth a little bit when they come up with their online profile. But don’t make the huge mistake of lying completely about important details. Remember, you’re going to meet the other person anyways and there’s no way you can hide the truth forever. Even if it’s something as simple as your age, be honest from the start to avoid future complications. The same goes with the picture you choose to attach to your photograph which should obviously be authentic. How would you like it if you showed up for a date with someone who is five years older and 2 feet shorter than what you thought? You wouldn’t like it very much and there’s no reason why you should do that to anyone else.

Falling in Love with Emails – there’s no doubt about it, it’s an incredible thrill to get attention from someone else. And after a few e-mails you might feel a deep connection like you’ve never experienced before. But take a step back and put things into perspective. A lot of people fall in love way to quickly, and it’s more the idea of the other person than the person themselves. Don’t be embarrassed if this happens because it’s a common phenomenon, but you also have to be careful that it doesn’t lead you into precarious situations. Remember, no matter how much you e-mail or message back and forth it will pale in comparison to what you can learn from one face-to-face meeting.

Taking Things too Personally – sorry, but rejection is a part of the online dating world two. While commercials might make it seem like you don’t have to face rejection ever again, that’s simply not the way things work. And it doesn’t hurt any less when it happens online either, and it can be just as surprising as in real life. The most important thing is to keep on trying even if people aren’t responding to your profile. Sometimes it’s just a matter of timing and in other cases you might have to make a few tweaks to your approach before you can find success.

Not Trusting Your Instincts – if it seems too good to be true, it invariably is when it comes to Internet and online dating. That’s why you should take things slow enough to let your instincts kick in in case something is wrong. There are plenty of people who aren’t telling the truth and some outright scammers out there. This isn’t an exact science and there are no love spells that will guarantee success, so you have to be on your toes at all times while putting trust in the right people. You have more intuition then you realize and it’s essential to keep your eyes open to protect your safety at all times.

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