The Top 7 Ways to Hurt Your Ex

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Once upon a time, when I had just broken up with a guy…I learned that he wanted to hurt me. He wanted me to feel pain because he was so mad about the breakup. So what did he do? He destroyed my furniture that I had left behind. Only, he didn’t think about how that would affect the way I viewed him from that moment until forever. So when he got in contact later with me he was surprised when I couldn’t stand the sound of his voice.

Following are the top 7 ways to hurt your ex AND why doing those things could possibly backfire on you and cause problems in your life!

1. Tell Your Ex a Lie That You Think Will Hurt Him or Her

One huge way to hurt your ex is to tell them a lie, and many people use this technique. Lies can vary from the classic “I’m pregnant!” to “I slept with your friend!” You can pick a lie that you really think will hurt them to the core and then let them have it through messages or even in person.

When you are a kid you are taught not to lie, and for good reason! Lying will only hurt YOU in the end! If you tell your ex something that you think will hurt them then it will eventually be found out to be a lie and it could cost you your reputation, future relationships, and even your dignity. Lying is something you will be sure to regret.

2. Spread Nasty Rumors Online

Online social sites have made it easy to spread nasty rumors about your ex. You don’t even have to use facebook to do the dirty work, you can sign up with random forums and spread the word, and you can even ‘submit dirt’ to places like thedirty.com.

First of all, this is bad because it is morally wrong. That may not mean much to you right now – but trust me, a few years down the road and you will start to feel a twinge of regret and remorse. It may even become so powerful that you are constantly feeling bad about what you did – and that can affect your life in a negative way.

Second of all, Karma baby Karma. It’s all too real and this type of karma is not something you want! Do you really ever want to go online and see a rumor about you making out with your cousin? Don’t think so! Avoid the bad karma by avoiding spreading rumors.

Lastly, it makes you look pathetic in the eyes of your friends and other people. When you post something online it can be impossible to retract it. Once you post it it’s there for everyone to see – and taking cheap shots at your ex makes you look pathetic and desperate. And the fact that your ex has hurt you will be apparent to everyone.

3. Spread Nasty Rumors Offline

  • It’s easy to make a poster of your ex doing something embarrassing and spread it around for everyone to see.
  • It’s also easy to tell a personal story that your ex would never share just for the thrill of making them embarrassed or feel horrible.
  • It’s also easy to ‘rat’ out your ex and let loose a secret that could get them in a lot of trouble.

But don’t do it!

If you share something for the sake of hurting them or getting them in trouble then you will probably succeed. But things may go further than you anticipated and you may end up essentially ruining their life. It happens quite often and it’s not a place you want to go. You do not want to be someone who ruined someone else’s life. Again it comes down to karma, regret, and looking pathetic.

4. Destroy Your Exes Personal Stuff

You can destroy your exes furniture, like my ex did. But you can even take it one step further and destroy things that really mean something to them like their grandfather’s watch or their personal diary (I’ve had that one done to me as well!) You can really get to the heart of what they are passionate about and burn it in a fire. You will not only damage their stuff but you will hurt them tremendously as well.

Doing this will earn you a spot in their life forever as someone who they do not want to see, hear, or date again; you will ruin your chances of every getting back together with them or even just being friends.

Doing this type of thing can also cause them to retaliate against you! They may be so angry and hurt that they ruin something of yours. Then you will be even more upset – and the circle will continue on like this until you break out into a really big fight and one of you goes to jail, or when one of you just finally gives up.

The best thing you can do when you still have your exes stuff is to give it back – NOW!

5. Sleep With Their Friend

Want to really hurt your ex? Then sleep with their friend. This can hurt them a couple ways.

  • You may hurt their ego by showing the interest you have always had in one of their friends.
  • You may cause their relationship with their friend to deteriorate leaving them without a buddy to hang out with.

Sleeping with your exes friend is NEVER something you should do. You can ruin your reputation, end up with hurt feelings if you get rejected from their friend as well, and even contract a disease or get (or get someone else) pregnant. Most of the time the joke is on you and you end up hurting WAY more than your ex does.

6. Tell Your Ex What You Really Think About Them

If you want to hurt your ex you can tell them what you REALLY thought about their skills in the bedroom. You can tell them how dumb you really thought they were or mock their failures in life to their face. You can really bruise their ego and lower their self-esteem by making fun of the personal things you know will cause them the most hurt. I know people that still have low self-confidence from their ex. You can literally shape their lives in a negative way by making them feel bad.

While doing this will 100% of the time hurt them, you will come out the loser in this one. Eventually, one day, you will regret making them feel so bad about themselves. Nobody likes to make someone else feel worthless or self conscious about themselves and even if it doesn’t happen tomorrow or next week – one day you will feel horrible for what you have done.

7. Vandalize Your Exes House or Car

Most people love their cars and house, and if you want to hurt your ex then pick the one they love most and vandalize it!

  • Egging a car or house can cause tons of damage, anger, hurt, and time to clean it up.
  • Spray painting ‘Loser’ on their garage door can cause huge embarrassment to them in the neighborhood and a whole day of painting.
  • Drawing a dick on their car can cause them embarrassment and lots of money to fix.

There are tons of things you can do to vandalize your exes stuff, but all of those things can land you in jail or with one hefty fine. Do you think they are not going to know it’s you? Even if they can’t prove it then may retaliate against you in a big way – which means your life may become in danger. There’s not telling what an agry ex will do when you have gone way too far.

While there has been lots of music videos and TV shows that make this look cool or funny, in the end you may be paying more than you want just to hurt your ex.

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4 Responses to The Top 7 Ways to Hurt Your Ex

  1. Alex@bloons td 5 February 1, 2012 at 1:38 am #

    this reminds me of the saying: “if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it will be yours forever. If it doesnt, it never meant to be”. So i’ve never come to the think of hurting my ex. If we are no longer lovers, we can still be friends.
    Hurting someone is just piece of cake, healing the wound caused by it is not that easy. Moreover, just like Bell said above, in the end the one who is hurt the most that is you. Just think about the other’s feeling and the consequence, you will not want to hurt them anymore.
    (sorry for my bad language usage, Bella, for i’m not native english, but i just cant keep silent after reading your article, i wonder why you are not a psychologist?)

    • Bellaisa February 1, 2012 at 8:01 am #

      You said it very well Alex. Hurting your ex only results in yourself being hurt, and if you take the time to think about the consequences of your actions – and how you will really be making your ex feel, then you will just give up and deal with your emotions a better way.

      You’ve got great insights!
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  2. Barnett February 1, 2012 at 4:09 pm #

    Thanks for showing me how I can make myself look stupid and tarnish my rep with my friends and family!…lol

    But in all seriousness this post brings out a great point. No matter how good it may feel to get revenge, it will only give you a sense temporary satisfaction.

    In the end your only really hurting yourself the most, for when you finally ‘reap what you sowed’ it’ll be like taking a solid cold monkey ranch to the face after waking up from sleep.
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    • Bellaisa February 1, 2012 at 7:58 pm #

      That is what I’m good for! lol.

      It’s funny how sometimes you have to take some level of revenge to really learn that lesson! But it only takes one time (for most people) and then the realization that revenge is not worth it never let’s you do it again.

      Thanks for commenting Barnett!
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